The Rhythm of Connection: How We Stay Close as a Couple

One thing we’ve learned over the years is that connection doesn’t just happen—you have to make it happen. Life gets busy, kids need attention, and the to-do list never seems to end. But Stephen and I knew early on that if we wanted to keep our relationship strong, we had to be intentional about it.

That’s how we landed on our little rhythm—a routine we stick to (most of the time 😉) to recharge as individuals and as a couple. It’s been a game-changer for our relationship and how we tackle life together.

Here’s what it looks like:

Every 2 Weeks: Date Night

No matter how busy life gets, we make it a priority to carve out time for just the two of us. Sometimes it’s a fancy dinner out, and other times, it’s a long walk with coffee in hand. The point isn’t what we do—it’s that we’re showing up for each other, uninterrupted, to talk, laugh, and just be together.

Every 3 Months: Overnight Getaway

These little escapes are part spa day, part fun adventure, and part mini “quarterly review” of our life. We check in with each other about how we’re doing, where we’re at with our goals, and where we want to go next. It’s a time to dream big and align as a team while also sneaking in a bit of rest and relaxation.

Every 4 Months: A 4-Day Trip Together

This is where the magic really happens. These trips are our deep-dive connection times—where we can completely reset, dream, and recharge. Coming back from these trips, we always feel refreshed and more united, ready to take on whatever life throws our way.

The Power of Flexibility

Now, I’ll be honest—this rhythm doesn’t always go perfectly. Life happens, like the winter our entire family got hit with the flu. 🤦‍♀️ When things don’t go as planned, we adjust. Maybe the getaway gets moved, or the date night becomes a cozy evening at home once everyone’s back on their feet.

As parents, flexibility is key, right? The important thing is that we keep coming back to the rhythm and making connection a priority, even if it looks a little different from time to time.

A Simple Start for You

If you’re looking for ways to stay connected with your partner, why not try adding one of these rhythms into your life? Start small—maybe commit to a date night every other week or an overnight once a quarter. You might be surprised at how much these intentional moments strengthen your bond. ❤️

Life is better when we do it together, and staying connected doesn’t have to be complicated. It just takes a little rhythm.

What’s one way you stay connected with your partner? I’d love to hear your ideas in the comments below!